“Dear Lyon” Counsellor

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Dear Lyon

I’ve been in a relationship with a man for many years.

He’s now told me he wants to be a woman and I feel devastated and betrayed,

GP Bucks

Dear GP

Let me answer your question by telling you my own story. 16 years ago, I met John who was kind, generous and gentle … we were drawn to each other and fell in love – we decided to live together and still do so. I was so absorbed in my work that I did not know the trauma that John was going through and had been doing so from a very young age. It seems that our relationship was the last attempt at him trying to be male. The only ‘complaint’ I may have had was that John was always looking at other women, not knowing that it was because observation was being made as to how women dress, apply make-up, walk, sit and other female traits.

5 years into the relationship … John told me he could no longer live as a man.

I was totally shocked and for a long time had a multitude of feelings and emotions never experienced before. They had a profound effect on me, the greatest being that it felt as though all my female energy was being sapped from me and I had my long hair cut very short and took up riding motorbikes!

There is so much more I could say but I did my research and have gained an understanding that no way is this a choice made by transsexuals … life is hard enough!

John, as he was, had a full sex-change and we have been through the process together … no longer as a couple but as close friends. The qualities that had drawn us together still remain and we support each other in our own ways.

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