Sex And the Disabled Girl

12 million people in the UK are disabled… and it’s estimated that over 1 million are women under the age of 35.

And for those one million it is generally perceived that their disabilities disqualify them from a normal love life.

Chelsey Jay
Chelsey Jay


Chelsey Jay is a beautiful disabled model and a wheelchair user and disagrees.

“When I’m out with friends, in a bar or a club, and people who are total strangers will always make a point of asking me; if I can have sex?
They see the wheelchair and instantly assume my vagina has a disability – I assure you it doesn’t?”

Disabilities takes on many forms; impairment, blindness, deafness, mental health problems. Stacy Paris is a double amputee. She says that, “I always get asked whether I keep my legs on when I have sex. I tell them, I don’t sleep, shower or even lay on a sofa chilling out with them on so why would I? People always seem surprised that I should keep them on to try and seem more ‘normal’ to the other person.” is a website that champions the ‘rights of disabled people. They set out to prove whether men would discriminate between an able bodied girl- rather than one in a wheelchair… even if it’s the same girl!



Chelsey Jay

The Dating Experiment


They monitored the site for one week to determine who men were more likely to ‘swipe’

Chelsey Jay

The Results

Coming soon!

Louise Blanch has cerebral palsy. She says, “I have children and I find it really strange when people ask the person with me, whether that be a relative or a carer, particularly when the children were very small, how did she get those? Oh the normal way! … uh huh, the same way as most women!”

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Hope Hoffman has Spina Bifida. She says, “I believe there’s a lot of subliminal discrimination around the topic. Having Spina Bifida, when I was transitioning from my paediatric to adult urologist, apparently meant they felt the need to specify the need for the transition as I was growing up and discovering my “sexuality”. Umm… Right… Because the fact I have a disability means I never thought of or engaged in sex in my teenage years ”

Why does it seem then, that active sexually aware young woman, who happen to be disabled, are looked upon as so different from their able-bodied peers?

When Chelsey Jay sits in a Coffee Shop, and her wheelchair is ‘invisible’ she turns heads.

Or maybe it’s because the British are so conservative and feel ‘threatened’ by disability – or maybe it’s because we are bombarded, on a daily basis, with the ‘perfect’ images of womanhood.

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  • There are 12 million disabled people in the UK
  • 45% are male… 55% are women
  • 38% of people believe disabled people are a burden on society
  • 1 in 4 British Adults will experience at least one diagnosable mental health problem in one year
  • More than 20% of disabled people have experienced harassment in public
  • 9 out of 10 people with a learning disability have been a victim of crime
  • The annual cost of bringing up a disabled child is 3 times greater than that of bringing up a non-disabled child
  • The World Health Organisation has predicted that depression will be the leading cause of disability by 2020. Mental ill health and learning disabilities in particular are anticipated to grow
  • Overall 1 in 10 adults in Britain experience depression at any one time
  • Over 1 in 4 disabled people say that they frequently do not have choice and control over their daily lives
  • About 60% of children and young people with both learning disabilities and metal health live in poverty
  • Among disabled children, boys have a higher rate of disabilities than girls, and are more likely to experience learning, memory concentration and communication difficulties
  • Only 1% of people were born with their disabilities. The majority of disabled people acquire their disability later in life